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A few years ago, my church used to have a segment that allowed for someone to share a “special song”; I would often step up to share songs that were meaningful to me, and many times get emotional during my performance. People knew me to be a songwriter, so afterwards, they would ask me if I wrote the song, to which I’d have to admit “I did not”.

I didn’t want to keep “disappointing” their expectations, and so I became inspired to write a song for church. However, seeing as I’m pursuing a career as a “metal artist”, I felt I should only use my time to write songs that would benefit my career. Sure, I could write a “metal song” and perform it for my church and be accepted and supported, but I wanted to share something I thought they might actually enjoy and appreciate.

So I thought, “Maybe I can write an acoustic song; I know other metal artists with acoustic songs…” And so I wrote “Love’s Not Fair”, which has a very melancholic tone with a glimmer of hope and gratitude, which gradually builds until the full band is playing with heavy drums and distorted guitars.

At first, the expression “Love’s Not Fair” sounds like a complaint, but actually, it’s a FACT. Love IS not fair; that’s what it IS, and that’s what makes it LOVE. Often, what we consider “love” is actually quite selfish; we always have conditions with our love: “If you’re nice to me, I’ll be nice to you”, but anyone can do that.

What love actually is, is something we CHOOSE to give; and that choice is a lot harder to make when the recipient doesn’t deserve it. To choose to love in spite of whether or not it returns; that’s the same love that Jesus demonstrated for us, and that’s the kind of love that can actually makes a difference in the world.